I came across this really interesting article on how we women should think twice before we open our cute little mouths. American Cosmopolitan listed the 6 worst things you can say to your man:
1. "You are much better than all the idiots I have dated before"
YOU might think it is a compliment but apparently this is not a good idea since this leaves your boyfriend thinking that the problem the problem might be you AND that in a matter of time you will start thinking that about him aswell.
Solution: DO NOT MENTION YOUR EX AT ALL! (This is def. an advice that I will adapt!)
2. "Can you really afford that?"
You are not his mother and if your are just dating then it is really not your place to interfere. Back off, men are proud and they do not like to feel like a loser.
Solution: If you feel you need to discuss his finances, do it under neutral circumstances and not when he just invested in something that he thinks is really awesome!
3. "Relax, It does not matter that we are a tad bit late"
It is never popular to let people wait. By behaving like this your man might think that you do not care about him and this can leave him irritared.
Solution: Let him know you are sorry and that you know it is important for him to be on time and that next time you will plan better next time.
4. "My friend is amazing! You should really become friends with him"
This will make him feel as if you are trying to control his social life and it will also make him wonder if you will try and control other areas (which we normally try, right?). Another important detail is the fact that men do not like to know that other men in your life are great!
5. "I promised her not to say anything,but..."
Hold it right there. This might be a way to get closer to your man but apparently men do not like when you betray someones trust. Gossip is not a mans strong side...(??).
Solution: Obviously you need someone to share some secrets with so when you do it with your man make sure to compliment him by saying "I am only telling you this since I know I can trust you with keeping a secret".
Last but not least...
6. "Don't be silly, I haven not done that in years.."
Well ladies this aswell is not a good idea. This might come off as you being a really funny little thing back in the days and now you are not. This might make him feel as if your relationship might turn dull and boring.
Solution: Do not talk about the past - Make sure to focus on the present and what you like right now.
My conclusion: You can choose to think that this article is silly or just try and bare it in mind when you are dating. I think that both men and women say and do alot of silly, idiotic and not so thought through things, so we can just live and learn and try and be better while in a relationship with someone.
Love M
